Notes and Musings
Warning these notes contain, some course and foul adult language. R rated If that might offend you don't read them.
My opinion, that has emerge, though all this. Some people don't seem to see any wrong in the crass behavior of office bullies , its like a coterie mental density, I suspect them to be people who have the same social pathology, to lessor or greater degrees. I actually had a number of "professionals" see not much wrong with Rommel's Behavior. They defended him. I have it in writing from some. How can they defend? I opine, it is because they do some of the same things, they are bully bosses in varying degrees, how can it be wrong? There are a lot out there, why wouldn't I have to deal with some of them, in regard to moving forward in my complaint. Than there is the other school of bully bossing, people who have been though it or just find it disgusting, because they are simply decent folk. They are the ones that have been helpful in my endeavor to make Rommel Bradley accountable. Almost always the lower ranking working folk, and in the Red Cross's case, mostly the Volunteers. I sent my complaint, to the Red Cross, a number of times. It was ignored often (as at Chinn) Dismissed or Rommel's actions defended. Finally a Volunteer, who had just finished a work shop on Red Cross Ethics, from the Red Cross Ethics and Fraud Department. Took it seriously and Forwarded it to that Department. The Red Cross investigator was one of the rare Professionals, I encountered, that took the scourge of bully bossing seriously, especially by a Red Cross Affiliate. The best I can do alone, Is make it hard for Rommel to continue his bully boss excesses. And try to educate people on the topic. I didn't know I was being bullied on the job, that it is epidemic. All I knew, Rommel was one the biggest assholes I had met in my life. And worse for using the power he had over me, my job,my safety, my health and health insurance, my reputation, my esteem, my integrity. I gave Rommel a chance to square it. All I got was a disingenuous, I should forget and he would Pray for me. That is not acceptable, I gave Chinn a chance to square it. More dis mission and harassment. That's not acceptable. So here I am mad as hell, frustrated and dismayed at the acts of Grown up, Prince William County "Professionals", acting like middle schoolers, passing my complaint around, like a gossip note in class. Why do this? I opine, it is because they do some of the same things, the are bully bosses, or of the Bully boss pathology, they bully coworkers most likely. how can it be wrong? You can't often Reason with Bully bosses, because it makes them wrong. They equate reason with being wrong. And they often are. Than there is the other school of bully bossing, people who have been though it or just find it disgusting, because they are simply decent folk. They are the ones that have been helpful in my endeavor to make Rommel Bradley accountable. Almost always the lower ranking working folk, and in the Red Crosse's case, mostly the Volunteers. I sent my complaint, to the Red Cross, a number of times. It was ignored often (as happened at Chinn) Dismissed or Rommel's actions defended. Finally a Volunteer, who had just finished a work shop on Red Cross Ethics, from the Red Cross Ethics and Fraud Department. Took it seriously and Forwarded it to that Department. The Red Cross investigator was one of the rare Professional's, I encountered, that took the sourge of bully bossing seriously and did a through investigation. I use to be a big supporter, of the Red Cross, Volunteering, Giving Blood. Not so much now, They got their own bully problems, it seems. The best I can do alone, Is make it hard for Rommel to continue his bully boss excesses. And try to educate people on the topic. I didn't know I was being bullied on the job, that it is epidemic. All I knew, Rommel was one of the biggest aholes I had met in my life. And worse for using the power he had over me, my job, my health and health insurance, my reputation, my esteem, my integrity. Now I know better. I gave Rommel a chance to square it. I all I got was a disingenuous he would Pray for me. That is not acceptable, I gave Chinn a chance to square it. More dismissiveness and harassment. That's not acceptable. So here I am mad as hell, frustrated at the acts of Grown up "Professionals", acting like middle schoolers, passing my complaint around, like a folded note in class. Shame you Bernidette O'keef and Aleka Campbell. Shame on you Red Cross Associates. Susan Fleming,Aquatics Program Specialist, Greg Gains Disaster Program Manager, he actually sent me a snarky, faux sensitive, threatening email for disagreeing with him, defending Rommel Bradley, ie, he bullied me. Well he tried. A standard Bullyboss practice, Intimidation! Very nice, that Greg Gains tried to wrap it in snarky, phony sensitivity. I have the correspondence. There were, only a few back and forths in my only dealings with Greg. He might be a super, duper nice guy. But I will err on the side of caution. I call him out as a bully boss.
When I was a much younger man, Almost 30 years ago. I got into Real Estate. It was a big deal for me. Getting back to school was neat, Getting my license, Going before a board and swearing to a Code of Ethics, it meant a lot to me. To this day I live by it. It's really simple actually. It boils down to the golden rule. Do unto others as you, would have them do unto you. I really have lived by that. You leave me alone, I leave you alone. As to my ethics as a business person, I tried to hold the highest standards, Given a situation I was in, my ethics were has good or better than the people I worked for. Least they want to throw stones.
I don't understand guys like Rommel and the manager who Replaced him John N. making such poor self serving decisions. John was a breath of fresh air compared to Rommel, but he also showed poor judgement and a narcissistic attitude. Example: Not long before he fired me. John asked me to start coming in an hour early for his convenience. Seems he wanted to get the daily sales meeting over and go to lunch. I explained that I was already scheduled an hour more than when I was hired. He said I could leave an hour early. I replied that wouldn't work for me or the club. This, because I needed to be there to make late sales and close out the day. And most importantly the front desk person (mostly young women) would be alone, late at night. I noted a few situations that did and could arise with possible out comes. He said I was overstating the situation. I told him if HR was ok with it, I would accede the point. Never heard from him again on the subject. Not long after, $106.00 cash membership money I collected was not accounted for. It was a busy Day, John was being a prissy Jerk as usual, and I am pretty sure I gave Tony Cox the money to deposit in the safe in John's office. Anyway John said the cash never made it. I paid it back and crossed my fingers. John kept me working 2 weeks as to hit sales goal and than fired me for the lost money. Another probable violation of ADA law as I was not well and an older employee. And to add, if Relevant: I was fired after the date, the US Government declared me disabled for my heart disease. I can be tempermental, especially when I have had enough and have nothing to lose. So I took 106 dollars outta johns hide. I reamed him out and shoved my ass in his face. Told him to finish the job. it almost turned into a fist fight. He was close to hitting a sick man twenty years his senior. I am the one who de escalated the situation. I ain't saying what I did was right. But I was so sick of these self serving assholes Tony, Rommel and John. And Johns way of dealing with a mouthy, mad, fired, employee was to pick a fight. Should of let him hit me. He should be grateful, cause hitting me would have ruined him probably. He change my termination paperwork from losing money, to stealing. Reading it before leaving I told him I was going to contact a lawyer. He did change it back to Losing money, on paperwork I receive from corporate. He added that I gave a six month guest pass for free. That is not completely true. Tony Cox the membership director and my direct boss, and I put together 3 memberships from one walkin. This one new member had 2 more people to refer, but she wanted something for it. The person who sent her told her what a great deal she got. We had nothing to offer, there was no sales promotions at the time, such as $50 and $100 gift cards or a gym bag or free dues for a month. What Tony and I worked out was, A six month guest pass for her son. Value $60.00, in line with many of our promotions. She didn't want to be obligated for the additional $10.00 a month for a son who might not come. My direct boss helped me put this together, he authorized it. And I know dame well, John and Rommel, or any body involved in sales would have authorize the same. Sales points were everything and you don't let 3 memberships walk out the door. But I guess it came up after I was fired and Tony must of denied any involvement. And it ended up on my termination paperwork.
Why am I pretty sure Tony Cox the Membership Director, stole the money I was fired for. A short time before the money went missing. I caught Tony selling a Referral gift Gym bag to a member I had signed, who earned a Free referral gift. I saw the man with it and he told me He paid Tony $40.00 dollars for it. I went to Tony (I liked Tony and it clouded my judgment) told him to return the money or ring it up as a sale and provide a receipt for the sale to the customer, I was pretty sure he was pocketing the money, but I gave him the benefit of the Doubt. I shouldn't have. Thats not all. After I was fired and Tony Cox left the company ( I am not sure of the circumstance,) he got a job with my GM, a good guy. before Rommel came to work . This was with another Health Club Chain in the area. Mike caught and fired Tony for taking cash under false pretenses, like I did, and pocketing it. Tony had sold a 1 months guest pass for way under book off the books. This was found out after the guy complained about something and the truth became apparent. Tony even confessed to me, it was a misunderstanding, he said, when he called me for advice on unemployment. At my termination, I could have used the, gym bag, incident to make my case Tony, stole the money. But I didn't want to drag in the, new member, And this GM, wanted me gone so bad I didn't think it would make a difference. And Honestly, I was fed up, the prospect of Collecting Unemployment and Healing from my heart attack, was very inviting. Just about the time My unemployment ran out, I was approved for Social Security Disability, I considered my self retired. And my Health keeps degenerating.
I have to confess, I have a huge flaw, I am prone to continue to think the best of people, even when they might be treating me at their worse. It takes time for things to sink in. But it does eventually. Then I am not so nice. But it's usually to late to protect myself.
I think I have lost some friends and associates over this thing with Rommel. I am conflicted myself sometimes over what I am doing here. I let it go for a time, a long time. Than it was brought back to me in the most unexpected way. Just a business call, it was. Any way, a friend, a good friend, a person I respect immensely. In a sensitive and compassionate way, suggested I should forgive and Forget. Get on with my life. He's right, but I consider the source. He and his wife spent a good part of a day, running customers off a drycleaner's storefront. The Dry cleaner, had lost or ruined a nice shirt or what ever. Maybe the dry cleaner was being a real Jerk. Wouldn't up a refund. I get it. But it was just a shirt, no one really got hurt. Things I saw Rommel, do, were hurting people, hurting me. People he should of been stewarding, Trying to raise them up. Not just the people he liked, or felt worthy. Everybody! But that wasn't his style. He dressed me up and down in his style. Will, I can forgive. I posted a FB message to that effect on my page. Since Rommel, remarked he would Pray for me, I assume him to be a God Fearing, Bible reading man. (albeit a disingenuous one.) I left him, a quote from the bible. Just for him. Essentially, If he would ask my forgiveness I would give it. And forget it. Had his chance twice. And he remains arrogant
I let it go for six years, traveled some. Changed Cities.....Mostly forgot, the worst 2 months of my professional life. Than I needed some cash, a quick title loan, with the best terms. I shopped every title lender in town, i think. Any way, one happened to be Managed in some Capacity, by my old boss Rommel Bradley (predatory lending seemed so appropriate to me, for Rommel,as an after thought). I heard so, though the grapevine and I didn't care. I wanted terms. The Young Woman was very nice. Pretty in a mousy way. Reminded me of someone from my youth. After she quoted me terms and conditions, way outta my ballpark, I got up to leave, but I couldn,t, I wished I hadn't. I asked. "do you know Rommel"......she went stone...."Bradley".....She went from friendly and engaging....to a breath away from tears. 6 Fucking years and he still was at it. She knew, what the question ment. "he'a a horrible, man isn't he" i asked. She said she couldn't talk about. She didn't need to. Her reaction said it all.
The Red Cross Ethics and Fraud department recommended Rommel Bradley's Water Safety Instructors Certification to be Revoked. This after reviewing this same documentation. His Indeed resume currently notes he is employed at Milpitas Star Aquatic & Fitness as of 8/25/15 During the Red Cross Investigation,early 2015, Rommel Bradley's Red Cross credentials were suspended. He was notified by certified mail. So he may have been working uncredentialed. If true and undisclosed, is a lie of omission. He
operated like this when I worked under him as I document here.
http://abusedocumentation.yolasite.com, Lie by omission, do his thing,
and expose his employer to possible legal liability. Sad to report
Rommel still has his Red Cross Credentials. Seems the lawyers (always
the lawyers) recommended prudence, Because of certain inadequacies in my Documentation and a number of years passing. He was reprimanded and put on notice and my complaint remains officially on his file.
Hopefully he has learned that coworkers and subordinates are not fodder
for his man child grudges and management inadequacies. That when he
swore to a code of ethics he was bound by it. Not the exception, so as
to disregard his training and his sworn ethics to "clean house" to quote
Rommel. Rommel Bradley was the meanest, most unethical, dishonest person I ever met professionally and maybe otherwise. More so for signing a code of ethics with the Red Cross and simply ignoring those ethics and his professional training. I don't know the nature of his affiliation now, but he most likely swore to a very stringent code of ethics with his Omega Psi Phi Fraternity. Did he not absorb anything from the process. I opine, Rommel Bradley is my number one candidate for the disappearance (3 felonies!) off a desk, of Prescription medicine purchased under the company health insurance. Shipped to a coworker, to be forwarded to me on a trip. Not getting it almost killed me and crippled me for life. It was my personal property, probably had my name on the address label. He did write, after all, I couldn't have "personal property, etc" at work, After the fact. I make my case in my complaint to the Red Cross, posted here. Since Rommel Bradley, proudly includes the time period of our co-employment on his two online resumes and surely does on any personally submitted resumes. I feel I have a right to contest his competence, ethics and professionalism during the time we worked together. Rommel's Indeed resume claims he is currently employed at Milpitas Star Aquatic & Fitness, and they have been forwarded this information. This for the protection of staff and membership in case Rommel Bradley should apply his bully boss abuses there.
Most likely Rommel didn't and doesn't see him self as a bully boss,
just a tough one. Years of playing football and it's known bullying
excesses and pampering of players, clouded his judgement, most likely. I
like football, I like sports, Years of being a bicycle racer didn't
turn me into an jerk, I don't think? Cycling doesn't tolerate Bullies.
They eventually end up in the ditch. Years of getting away with being a
bully boss, also clouded his judgement, I think. Being an office ahole
was part of his mental job description. Rarely do people who want to
keep working, complain to the point of stopping these bully bosses. Who make hard working folks so miserable. We all know they exist. I assure, Rommel was one of them, when I worked for him.The worst I ever met.
Well I am retired now. I got nothing to lose. He will now get the
lesson in professional decency he deserves and might just modify his on
the job nastiness. I might be doing him a favor, before he actually